The psyche cannot tolerate a vacuum of love. In the severely abused or deprived child, pain, dis-ease, and violance rush in to fill the void. In the average person in our culture, who has been only "normally" deprived of touch, anxiety and an insatiable hunger for posessions replace the missing eros. The child lacking a sense of welcome, joyous belonging, gratuitous security, will learn to hoard the limited supply of affection. According to the law of psychic compensation, not being held leads to holding on, grasping, addiction, posessiveness. Gradually, things replace people as a source of pleasure and security. When the gift of belonging with is denied, the child learns that love means belongin to. To the degree we are arrested at this stage of development, the needy child will dominate our motivations. Other people and things (and there is fundamentally no difference) will be seen as existing solely for the purpose of "my" survival and satisfaction. "Mine" will become the most important word. . Sam Keen
I understand addiction now. I never did before, you know. How could a man (or a woman) do something so self-destructive, knowing that they’re hurting not only themselves, but the people they love? It seemed that it would be so incredibly easy for them to...
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Marie Sexton
Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it's often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.
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Reality is just a crutch for people who can't handle drugs.
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Robin McLaurin Williams
We are addicted to our thoughts. We cannot change anything if we cannot change our thinking.
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Santosh Kalwar
The Memory Of You Is Like A Drug To Me
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More Quotes By Sam Keen
We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
Burnout is nature's way of telling you, you've been going through the motions your soul has departed; you're a zombie, a member of the walking dead, a sleepwalker. False optimism is like administrating stimulants to an exhausted nervous system.
The sacred is discovered in what moves and touches us, in what makes us tremble.
The world is run largely by urban, sedentary males. The symbol of power is the chair.
The question that surrounds lovemaking is, "Did you cum?" and the unasked question beneath that is, "Am I all right?
